Over the years, I’ve witnessed dozens of people set themselves up for failure by following seemingly wise advice –
“When you set a goal, make it public and tell everybody you know so that they can support you.”
In my experience, that hasn’t worked so well – especially on long-term goals. The reason is that anybody outside of my close relationships doesn’t know me well enough to understand why I’m doing what I’m doing. That makes it challenging to provide support in meaningful ways, difficult for me to accept it, and unneeded pressure on everybody.
It doesn’t take too much thinking to realize that the best accountability relationship is based on respect and a sincere connection to have the most impact. That means there is no need to crowd-source accountability when you only need two people to keep you on track.
The first partner is the one you listen to the most – YOU! Accepting responsibility for your accountability is the most powerful skill own.
But since you are the Boss of yourself and don’t always listen to yourself, you need somebody you trust, respect, and are willing to call you out on your stuff. Once they agree, let them do their job.
Getting what you want begins and ends with you, but having an accountability partner is a great way to keep you on track in the messy middle.