I was an Ass, and I was the last to notice. I’m sure that kind of thing has never happened to you – right?
In the world we live in today, it seems everything moves so quickly that we all do our best to keep up. 24-hour news, high-speed internet, grocery delivery in an hour. And who cares if an Amazon delivery driver has to pee in a bottle, I want my stuff, and I want it now!
After living several years in a rural setting, I thought I was heeding the advice I give my clients, “You have to slow down before you can go fast.” But, unfortunately, most don’t listen to me the first time. It turns out that I didn’t either.
Joi and I are traveling full-time in our RV for a few months while searching for our next home. We found out how quickly life can change when we found ourselves at a campground in a dry country with a minimal internet connection. With no wine and no Netflix, we had to slow down and enjoy our fellow adventurers around the campfire. It was refreshing and almost like being a child playing hide-and-seek after dark. We went to sleep happy and relax, but the following day everything changed when Joi’s laptop stopped working.
In an instant, I found myself in “get out of my way, I gotta fix it now mode” and heading to Asheville to buy up a new computer. At that moment, only a police escort would have slowed me down.
Once in town, our first stop was lunch before Joi started to get “Hangry,” but the minute I step through the door, something was different. People were calm, cool, and kind.
Next was the electronics store with more calm, cool, and kind people. When I was shocked they didn’t have the exact computer I wanted in stock, they kindly said, “I would be happy to get it from another store for you. Can you come by tomorrow?”
NO! I can’t come back tomorrow! Come on! I’m living the American dream of traveling the country in my RV – I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR THIS!
At the pet store, the cashier asked, “How are guys today? Are you having a good day?” It happened at the drug store too. For just a moment, I felt like Micheal J Fox listening to the weather report in the movie Doc Hollywood. Everything sounded so calm, cool, and kind, and I got the message.
On the way out of our last stop, I said to my wife, “I think I’m an Ass, and I should slow down and be nicer. So my new mantra is always to be calm, cool, and nice.”
With that, she said, “I thought that was already your mantra. We need more practice. Let’s do some more shopping.”
That, my friend, is what I call the “Wisdom of the Wife.”