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Expanding Your Comfort Zone

By Scott | May 12, 2021

One of the most empowering mindsets you can own is knowing that you are never alone in this world. I received an email I wanted to share with you.

Hi, Scott –

I got something so positive from your message today. You talked about getting out of your comfort zone. I thought that all I have ever wanted was to experience a little Comfort Zone!

I realized from today’s podcast, people who have enjoyed living in their Comfort Zone have their struggles. It is hard to do scary things when you don’t have to. So you stay where you are and feel frustrated.

I have had success these last few years, but it has been challenging. I have had to take actions I didn’t want to take. Dig deep when all I wanted to do was bury my head in the sand. I wanted a happy, stable life so bad, and it kept me going.

With my bad marriage out of my life, selling my big burdensome house, and the bonus of cash in the bank from the sale, I feel a little Comfort Zone on my horizon. And honestly, I am ready.

Am I wrong?

Isn’t the Comfort Zone a completely different place when you have had to fight so hard for it?

A new Comfort Zone is not a different place when you fight for it. It’s a state where Judith Bardwick said people operate in an anxiety-neutral condition. That’s where most people live until you feel the need to change.

When that happens, you will feel the need to transition from safe and in control and to something new. First, you enter the Fear Zone. If you keep fighting, you transition to the Learning Zone. Continue to drive yourself, and you will arrive at the Growth Zone. That’s where you are now.

I’ve always visualized a Comfort Zone as the bubble I live. As grow and expand, my bubble connects with the bubble next to it. When it does, I arrive in a new safe and in control Comfort Zone. From there, I explore the possibilities of life until I begin the process all over again.

Why?

Because according to Abraham Maslow’s Theory of Human Motivation in 1943, “What a man can be, he must be.”

I guess we can say you are “musting” right now.

Are You Burying The Lead in Your Life

By Scott | May 11, 2021

Have you ever found yourself setting out on a big mission yet not being able to define what you want?

When I was a young man, I trained in journalism as part of my broadcast career. Radio stations would send me to the local town meetings and political events. Anything newsworthy. My job was to write a story and deliver it on the air, and I thought I was doing a great job – until my boss called me into his office. He wanted to know why I wasn’t getting to the critical part of the story faster. He said I was distracting from what is important.

In my mind, I was doing no such thing.

I told the story how it sounded best in my mind, but nobody was listening long enough to hear what I had to say. All these years later, I’ve learned the “I want to get more out of life” crowd does the same thing.

Recently, I spoke with a client when I realized she was very good at shifting to the unimportant—finding more time, learning more, and getting more advice. Even cleaning the garage was more important. In the middle of her wandering story, I stopped her,

“Why are you avoiding what is most important to you? Cut to the chase, say what you want, and go do it.”

Her response came with a few tears.

“I thought I was talking about what is most important. Now I realize I’m telling myself a story that is comforting and sounds good to in my mind.”

She is burying the lead in journalistic terms, busying herself with secondary details, and growing frustrated.

How does this relate to improving your life?

Do you say, “I can’t focus?” Nope. You are focusing on the wrong things.

Do you say, “I can’t get myself moving?” Truth? You are moving – in the wrong direction.

Do you say, “I don’t have enough money?” Wrong again. What you need is more money!

If something is important to you, give it the honor, respect and focus it deserves. Lose the drama, get to the point, and start getting what you want right now.

Mission Beyond Your Why

By Scott | May 10, 2021

Since the beginning of time, successful people have given this sage advice; you must set goals.

In the human mind, setting goals are the heartbeat of your life. Setting a goal will harness your focus, give you meaning and purpose, and drive you forward. It gets even better if you place a deadline. If your goal is essential, timely, urgent, you will likely do anything possible to get it.

Yes, likely.

You may have also heard that understanding WHY you want to achieve your goal is critical to your success. “Knowing your WHY will allow you to deal with every challenge along the way,” is what they said. But sometimes, you fall short. Losing weight is a good example.

Every year, millions of people set the goal of losing a few pounds. Most end up failing. But if you think about it, that makes sense. Nobody ever wants to lose anything. That’s against every survival instinct you have in your body. When you set a goal that takes something away, your mind will fight you every step of the way.

So what’s the fix?

If your goal is to lose 10 pounds, focus on the real reason and the benefits you will receive when you reach your goal. That will become your mission beyond your why.

It’s not losing weight. It’s feeling better inside and out.

It’s not losing weight. It’s building your self-confidence.

It’s not losing weight. It’s having unlimited energy and stamina.

Any goal that focuses on loss alone lacks the positive motivation you need to succeed. No matter how bad you want it.

When you think about your daily process as steps on a mission beyond your why, everything changes. More success and happiness are in your future, and your possibilities are endless.

What Is Your Intention?

By Scott | May 9, 2021

Do you get out of bed every day, plant your feet on the ground, and start getting things done?

Do you do it with intention?

If you take a minute, you’ll notice the happiest, most successful, and content people live a life of intention. But having an intention is not a magical force reserved for the special few. It implies little more than what you plan to bring about in your life – something I was about to do.

In the months after meeting my future wife, I realized an intention was emerging in my mind. With every passing day, that intention transformed into a goal. Soon, I had a plan along with a timeline. I became obsessed and was on a mission to succeed.

I had, as they say, “Good intentions.”

But, good intentions are rarely enough to get what you want. In my case, I knew where I was heading; Joi was only beginning to understand what was on my mind. That’s when she asked –

“So, Mr. Smith. What are your intentions, exactly?”

Without missing a beat, I said –

“My intentions are simple. I’m going to do everything I can to get you to fall in love with me, marry me, and spend the rest of our lives together.”

Her jaw dropped. She smiled, took a sip of wine, and said –

“Well, I guess we’ll keep going and see what happens.”

What? We’ll see how things go? I already know where this is going. Why do we need to wait? I know my intention, and I’m to get it!

Of course, I didn’t say any of that to her.

Yes, getting what you want in life requires knowing your intentions. Transforming them into goals and action is next. But, you and your dreams are not living on an isolated island. If others are involved, you must let them know what you have on your mind.

But, because you said your intention, does that mean you will get what you want?

No. It means that you now have a partner in your quest. Your intentions are about to merge. If all goes well, your actions will create success for everybody.

Formula For Automatic Motivation

By Scott | May 6, 2021

Over the years, I’ve learned there is one trait responsible for holding people back. While it lives at the front of your mind and affects everything you do, it is also invisible.

You are too vague in your vision.

When most people build a successful life, they often do so with a lack of clarity or precise vision of their future. They have a vague idea. The Universe kicks in gear, an opportunity arrives, and life is good and satisfying—until it’s not.

A day will come when you desire something more. You may find yourself stuck behind an obstacle of indecision and frustration. Confused, lacking direction, fearful, and seeking the motivation that will drive you forward. It will feel as if there is a cloudy haze over your future with no clear path to success—and no motivation to go for it.

But there is no need to worry.

Another day will dawn. You will realize that a general and non-specific approach to your future is not the fuel that will power you. Being too vague doesn’t build a vision.

A time will come when you choose to be specific in your wants, needs, and desires. You will seek absolute clarity and turn your head away from anything the doesn’t provide a clear path. It may take time, but you will discover your first step. When you do, magic will happen.

On the day that you define what you want, vagueness will disappear. Your new focus will create excitement and will manifest into automatic motivation. You will move toward your new experience.

If you want something different in life, clearly and precisely express what that means to you. When you do, you will strike gold in time and will be off and running on your new adventure—automatically.

Acting On Your Dreams and Goals

By Scott | May 5, 2021

Do you have long-held dreams and goals that you need a little motivation to get yourself moving?

Laura and I have worked together for over a decade on various projects. Her latest was a move from a long-time career into something she was in which she was more passionate. After several months, her dream transformed into a goal. The roadmap was in place. Action was the only thing needed to turn dreams into reality—then nothing happened.

Months passed by with little or no action. It seemed that life was always getting in the way of Laura’s dreams. When I asked what was going on, she said,

“Oh… I don’t know. I always seem to have something more important on my mind.”

That’s common, and what John Lennon meant when he said, “Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.”

Over the years, I have found that people tend to ACT and DO what serves them best at the moment. All while dreaming and planning what they want. It’s an exhausting way to live, but you can set yourself free by asking yourself a simple question –

“How bad do I want it?”

Truthfully answering that question will do one of two things. It will propel you into action or have no impact at all. If you find yourself motivated and moving, all is well. If not, you have another question to ask –

“If I don’t want it that bad, should I drop it and move on?”

Everybody has ideas and dreams that enter their mind throughout their lives. The important tend to cause automatic forward action. Your life transforms, and everything begins to go in a new direction.

For the others, you may want to consider that it’s not as important to you as you thought. The best thing is to get your ego out of the way, scratch it off your list, and make room for something that excites you. When you do, incredible new opportunities that have been hiding from you for years will enter your life.

Listening To Yourself Twice as Much as Others

By Scott | May 4, 2021

When I was growing up, I was an energetic, enthusiastic, and excitable child. I never let a day go by without challenging something – usually with my mouth. Thanks to those responsible for turning me into a good person, I learned a valuable lesson when they said-

“Listen twice as much as you speak. You have two ears and one mouth for a reason.”

You’ve heard that before, and in today’s fast-paced world, knowing when to put a zipper on your lips is critical. But, I’ve also learned to take that advice to a new level to get what I want. I call it doing “Dark.”

When you go “Dark,” you have chosen to listen to others less. Yes, you are still listening, caring, and interacting with those around you. You’ve decided to listen to yourself twice as much instead.

The world we live in today makes it seem as though it’s impossible to get what you want without others. There are endless hours of interacting, Googling, ZOOMing, Texting, and more. It’s as if we’ve lost permission to think and do for ourselves. We can’t move forward without the social approval of those around us when the exact opposite is true.

When you give yourself space to listen to yourself more, something extraordinary happens. Your creative mind and talents flourish—your positive energy rebounds. You feel more present and find more meaning in your life. Going “Dark” makes your life brighter, and then the good stuff happens.

When you take the time to slip away into your own space, you develop into the person you were meant to be.

Removing yourself from the buzz of the world gives you a new kind of energy. And you do it without anybody’s permission or without anybody knowing.

When you emerge, everybody will notice that you are different. They will listen when you speak, seek your advice, and be attracted to you in a new way.

Who knew that listening twice as much as you speak works even better when you listen to yourself twice as much as you listen to others?

Toss Your To-Do List. This is Better.

By Scott | May 3, 2021

There is a significant benefit of growing older and wiser, figuring out what works in most areas of life. The school of hard knocks is a great place to master most areas of life – including productivity.

I’m always amazed at how much time people fritter away deciding how to be more productive—always trying to keep up with their never-ending daily list of things. Eventually, though, we all learn that a good life will always offer more opportunities than you can ever use. The day will come when it becomes easier to focus on what’s important and yields consistent results.

I ran into that when I learned to fly little airplanes.

Aviation is over one hundred years old. That means new pilots experience information overload as their Instructor crams their brain full. And flying airplanes can be unforgiving when you get things wrong. That causes you to micro-focus on little details – especially when performing your Pre-Flight Checklist.

One day, while walking to our airplane, I was freaking out. I was finding it impossible to remember the thousands of items that make for a safe flight. I remember saying –

“There is so much on my list, and I keep thinking I’m going to miss something and get myself hurt… or worse.”

My Instructor smiled…

“That’s not a list of everything you need to do. It’s a Checklist for what to do now. I like to think of it as my DID I DO IT LIST. That way, I’m only double-checking that I did the important stuff.”

Pure brilliance!

From that day forward, I embraced the “Did I Do It” philosophy in flying. It also became the mantra for how I go about getting things done.

Why does it work?

A “Did I Do It List” assumes that you already know what you must accomplish. All you have to do is make sure you’ve done it. It allows you to release the stress of information overload and enjoy yourself more. Plus, the serotonin boost you get from seeing how much you have accomplished feels great.

Why You Hold Back From The Change You Want

By Scott | May 3, 2021

I was sitting at the dining room table of a friend. We had been solving the problems of the world in an hours-long conversation when she asked,

“What are you talking about on tomorrow’s podcast?”

When I told her that I hadn’t thought about it yet, she said,

“Why don’t you talk about why people don’t take big chances and stay in their comfort zone for their entire life?”

My mind did an instant review of my life and all the areas I had stumbled before I got out of my own way. I also remembered conversations with clients over the years on the topic of life’s leaps. Before I could say anything, she said,

“I know what it is. People get so comfortable with what they’ve built, and they don’t want to chance losing it. Their money, their home, they wonder what their family will say?”

Is there anything else?

“Yes. Everybody gets scared and freezes. I’m like that, but I’ve learned to push through fear and go for it – as long as I’m mostly sure I won’t lose what I’ve built.”

We talked a bit more about what it takes to make the changes you want in life and came to three conclusions-

When you have a growth mindset and believe that anything is possible, you can do anything. Holding on too tightly to what you have sends the wrong energetic message. When you are willing to expand – you will.

Next, as a human, you will never be comfortable gambling on the very thing that allows you to dream. The solid foundation that takes care of your personal needs is the very reason you desire to self-activate. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs taught us that. Your foundation must remain while you expand.

Finally, fear will always be present when beginning a new adventure. The cure is knowledge. When you know what you have, see your path forward, and have prepared as much as possible for your journey, you will find yourself willing to go for it.

Anything is possible when you protect your foundation, respect the challenge, and honor the dreams that are whispering to your soul.

Removing Fear of Change

By Scott | April 29, 2021

I woke up this morning with the realization that a life-changing event was looming in my future. I needed to wrap my head around the mindset adjustments I would need to make before changing my mind and running the other way.

All of us have made decisions in our lives, that if we did, would change our world overnight. Maybe you are heading off to school for the first time? Are you getting married after being single forever? Could it be accepting a new job in a strange town?

It doesn’t matter how excited you are. It doesn’t matter how well you have justified your upcoming change. It doesn’t matter how adventurous your spirit. Life-changing decisions can feel like Evil Knievel jumping the Snake River Canyon.

But, there’s one thing I know for sure –

Life is all about getting from where you are today to where you will be tomorrow. It’s the transformation from what you have to what you could have that excites growth in our lives.

So, what is that uncomfortable feeling that you have in your gut?

Every one of us views ourselves as who we are on the inside—our identity. Since current life is real and the future not realized, feeling apprehensive is a natural response. What you need is a “Transitional Identity” to get you from today to tomorrow.

“I’ve always been a hometown person, and now I’m learning to become a citizen of the world.”

“I’ve always been single, but I’m becoming the best relationship person I can be. My future spouse deserves that.”

“I’ve never climbed this high on the corporate ladder, now I’m becoming the leader everybody deserves.”

Transitional Identities are a simple way to smooth the fear of heading into the unknown – even if it’s self-inflicted.

As your future becomes more real, your Transitional Identity will transition you into the new life, and you will become a new you.

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