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Do You Act Like a Happy Person?
If you were to ask my wife if I was always a happy and positive person, she would likely say, “Hmm… it’s complicated… but yes.”
As a proud high-maintenance man who has never met a conversation, I didn’t want to see how deep we could go. I would have to agree. It isn’t straightforward. But the answer is yes. I’m happy every day of the week. Not because I was born that way. Nope. As my Italian friends would say, “I had a good learning.”
Many years ago, right after high school and just after entering the adult world, I realized that life was complicated and that it wasn’t going to change. I also had another learning…
I noticed that no matter how difficult things were, some people I met were happy as they embraced the suck. I wanted to be one of them. I wanted to be the person that didn’t need rose-colored glasses to be satisfied. That meant I needed to think like them…
Can you accept that merely being alive means you will run into occasional challenges?
Can you realize that dealing with challenges is a privilege that comes with being alive?
Will you welcome frustration and be satisfied that it only means you are moving forward?
Are you able to accept responsibility for solving your challenges?
Do you have a “bring it” mindset for everything life throws at you?
Are you expecting to get a great night’s sleep, no matter what happened today or will happen tomorrow?
That’s how happy people think.
That’s how you should think too.
A Different Look at Time Management
In my entire life, I’ve always found it interesting that there never seems to be enough time in the day. Still, most days, everything seems to get done. If it doesn’t, the world didn’t end, and I survived to check off another item from my to-do list tomorrow.
I know I’m not the first human on the planet to face the problem of time, but I think I’m one of those smartypants who have figured out how our time works in real life. And it was 180 degrees from what I felt that time was all about.
Pay attention now. How you look at time is about to change.
First, when you run as fast as possible to get things done, time moves quicker, and less gets done. Even worse, with every minute filled, there is never enough time to do the things that make your heart sing. If you’re like me, that will eventually lead you to sabotage your list so you can do something fun for yourself. It’s a never-ending cycle.
On the other hand, when you slow down, hold space for yourself, and focus on results relevant to your goals, time slows down, and you get more done. Not only that, you magically find yourself with lots of free time that you need to fill. Finally, a chance to read a book, binge on Netflix or hang out with family and friends. The choice is yours.
Of course, if you’ve ever studied Einstein’s Special Theory of Relativity, this sounds familiar. As he determined—time is relative. In other words, the rate at which time passes depends on your frame of reference.
So, what is your frame of reference?
In our case, I’m not asking whether you are moving fast or slow; I want to know if you are focused on the essential things in life that matter to you. Everything else disappears when you do, times slow down, and you enjoy your day like you were born to do.
Being Positive, Practical, and Peaceful
I must admit that I get in trouble because some of the Scott logic that comes out of my mouth doesn’t sit well with many folks these days – and they let me know.
One of the biggest comments…
“You seem like such a positive guy, and then it’s like something clicks in your head and goes negative and ruins my day.”
While I don’t think I ever go negative, I’ve heard that many times.
Here’s the thing…
It would be easy for me to get caught in the feel-good trap of chasing positivity – if only for being positive. But I’m not interested in that. I am interested in the results. For me, that is a peaceful, content, joyful, and meaningful life. If you’ve been alive for over a couple of decades, you know all of that is found lurking in the truth. That’s why I consider myself a practical positive guy, and you should too.
I believe an optimistic attitude is power in life; I also think that you can never be truly happy until you are willing to dig deep into the not-so-positive challenges in life. Until you do that, you’ll you blocked. That’s why you’ll always hear me cover both sides. Frankly, I’m not interested in what we can and will do in our lives. I’m interested in the millions of interactions, decisions, and feelings we encounter daily that become the life we will have lived someday.
Stephen Fry said, “sticks and stone may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
Almost everything that freaks folks out begins with words from others and yourself. Keep that in mind because…
When you choose to be positive and practical and ground yourself in the truth, you will become at peace with everything around you – including yourself.
Daring Yourself To Live Your Dreams
“Please! Can somebody stop the world? I want to get off!”
Okay. Just for you, I pressed the magic button, and the world stopped.
Whatcha gonna do now?
If you don’t have an answer, there’s no need to freak out. It’s common for people to get slowed down, and think about what their life could be like, and I have no idea.
But let’s say you are one of the few who decide the time has come to turn directly into the challenge.
Many years ago, I adopted a philosophy that became the driver that would change everything. I decided I would always turn face-first into any challenge that stood between me and my dreams. Yes, I would face my passion head-on and do whatever it takes to make it real.
Do you know what happened next?
I tripped, stumbled, and fell into a pile of my own crumbled dreams. That’s when I realized that deciding to face your passion was only the beginning. Before you can face your passion and live your dreams, a few more things must be faced first.
You must face your stress.
You must face your relationships.
You must face your health, finances, and spiritual beliefs.
You must face your friendships, the clothing you wear, what you eat, and what you dream.
Yes, living the “I know there must be more lifestyle” is freakishly simple and no big deal; you do whatever you want whenever you choose to do it. But it doesn’t take long to realize that getting whenever you want requires that you face a few things first.
It’s simple. As scary as it may feel, no matter how much you don’t want to do it, everything becomes possible when you deal with all the stuff in your life and take control.
So, the next time you find yourself trying to figure out what’s stopping you from living your dreams, there might be a few things that you want to handle first.
Do Leftovers Make Happiness?
When I began training and competing with my dog in agility, I made a rookie dog trainer mistake. I wasn’t consistent, and my dog was getting confused. One day, my trainer said, “For a dog, one time means all the time. Every time you let them do something new, they’re just going to keep doing it.”
Now, as silly as it sounds, that came to mind a couple of weeks ago when my wife, a creature of routine and habit, did the same thing.
We were invited to attend Thanksgiving with family, and Joi’s training kicked in instantly—
“I like going to their home, but what about leftovers? I like leftovers?”
As a guy who has experienced Joi’s “No eating out at the restaurant until all the leftovers are gone” rule, I knew this was a big issue. But, like a good husband, I got out of the way and let her figure it out.
A couple of weeks later, after enjoying a nice day, I watched as Joi carried her share of leftovers to the car, thinking to myself, “Good. She got her leftovers.” Boy, was I wrong—
Joi came home from the gym the following day, headed for the kitchen, and started cooking – LEFTOVERS! She wasn’t reheating them. She had purchased a small turkey and all the ingredients she needed to keep with her routine for the weekend. At that moment, I couldn’t control the look on my face.
“What? I like leftovers, and I look forward to it. It’s what I do, and it makes me happy.”
Like a good husband, I didn’t say a word. My only thought was, I guess we’re not having pizza tonight.
Do leftovers make you happy? Maybe. YOU make you happy. Do what you do. You can always have pizza next weekend.
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