On a couple of Monday’s a month we hold a Click Coaching. Folks from all over the world allow me to mentor them. On our last call, Jenifer had a question.
“I tend to be hard on myself, and I’m not sure how to get out of the habit. I’m flexible and easy going, but when it comes to myself, I don’t give myself a break. Do you have any insight?”
Yes, and it’s more common than you think.
The trick is to catch yourself being hard on yourself at the moment it happens. Then, interrupt the pattern by saying something like, “This is NOT me! I treat myself like I treat everybody else,” and begin acting that way.
You must interrupt the pattern and immediately replace it. Otherwise, the behavior will continue.
On the other hand, if you do, I promise it won’t take long before you find yourself being nicer – to yourself.